I love boudoir shoots. I remember the first session I shot. We were both nervous. She is still a friend. What I came to understand is that boudoir is about more than just beautiful timeless photos. It’s about vulnerability, acceptance of ones self and embracing human sensuality.
Acceptance and Vulnerability
Through boudoir you learn how to be confident. You learn to see yourself in a different way. You learn to be vulnerable. Over the last year I spent a lot of months laying on the ground in the desert talking to young adults about how to live a better life. I worked for an outdoor therapy program. One of the things I saw the most were kids who couldn’t open up. They couldn’t trust and this caused them to shut off from the world. They would end up feeling isolated and next they would physically isolate.
Obviously boudoir is not for everyone, but the correlation is that being vulnerable is healthy. vulnerability is one of the requirements to fall in love. It’s a risk and risks have rewards and sometimes punishments. Part of being a boudoir photographer is creating a safe place where you can learn to be vulnerable. That’s part of my job.
Do you ever look at someone else and think.. how can they see themselves like that? They’re more beautiful than they think they are.
Why do people think this way?
WE all view our lives through our own set of eyes and we have are blind to certain parts of our existence.
One of the most therapeutic ways to tear down the blinders is to see yourself through another persons eyes.
This is another reason I love boudoir photography.
Growing up and for my entire life I look at things and see details. I see the scratches on a door handle when I walk into a hotel room. I see the way a blade of grass moves as the wind blows. I see the way someone moves and they walk down the sidewalk and pass me. I’ve always noticed details. I’ve always felt that details mare beautiful. When you work with a boudoir photographer make sure you work with one who has studied. Make sure you work with one who has a style you appreciate. Make sure you work with one who is going to make you look and feel the best! I know a few photographers who shouldn’t shoot boudoir. IF you look at the world and you see gross things this is not the right field for you to work in.
Make sure you work with a photographer who has the right vision for you!
Light and shadow
most boudoir is full of light. Most boudoir photographers use natural light, when used correctly can be soft and wrap around a body in an elegant way that shows truth.
Flash, or strobe photography is usually a little more harsh and sharp. Sharp light brings attention to small details that most people never notice.
When I shoot boudoir I stick with natural light mostly. I have used other light sources in the past and I will in the future but I know when to use them and when not to.
I don’t shoot like most other boudoir photographers. I’ve always felt that every human should be a little bit of a mystery. I use this in my work. I do it because mystery is key part of seduction and if I was a woman I would want to keep parts of my a mystery. It’s my gift to you.
I’ll tell you a secret about me. A lot of people ask what I think about when I photography boudoir.
I think about two things.
1. How to make you feel amazing.
2. Audrey Hepburn
I don’t think I need to explain the first one. The second one? Audrey Hepburn..
Here is why
Audrey was always classy. She was always elegant. At least that’s who I see her. I think of her because it reminded me that you are elegant. You are classy and this way the images are classy and elegant.
The best part of boudoir photography for me is seeing a woman cry and tell me she’s never thought she was beautiful. It’s getting an email a year later that says after the shoot she checked herself into a rehab center and started going to AA meetings. It’s getting a letter and reading about how boudoir was the starting point for self love and respect and now she needs a wedding photographer.
Boudoir is about a lot of things but the best part is it’s about loving yourself.
If you are worried or afraid, I get it. It’s normal, but I’ve heard that facing your fears is the way to overcome them. Give it a shot because boudoir photography is not going to hurt you!
I’ll talk a lot more about Boudoir and wedding photography over the next few weeks so come back and learn more!
I’ll be in Salt Lake City this weekend. I have a few spots left in my mini sessions. Message me! 95 dollars…. 45 minutes. You get all the images on a flash drive and I edit 3 to 5 for you.
Ikon Republik- I live and travel in a frickin van and I love my life! I founded a magazine, VEGA Magazine. My magazine is full of beautiful nude women and its based around the idea of respect and soon it will include amazing articles on how to improve your life! Out of the last 8 months, I have spent 4 of them living in the desert, under the stars and cooking over a campfire that was made with two sticks and a bow. I believe in self-sufficiency and integrity.